I firmly believe in Proverbs 22:6 – Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. This does not mean to say children will not deviate from what you teach, in reaching their own conclusions. At the moment, it seems in every direction I look, friends who are parenting teens are struggling. I praise God, for those who are parenting in Faith, seeking His will and direction and I am praying for them. I am also praying for my precious friends who do not know Jesus and have teens who are struggling with life. My heart breaks to see dear friends hearts broken by and for children hurtling towards adulthood and who are seeking to find their own way in this crazy world.
My oldest is 11 and I’m not there yet! I see what’s going on in my friendship circles and I pray for my children. I pray they come to love the Lord as their personal Lord and Saviour. I pray we will not have the same bumpy road. I’m watching closely how my friends handle situations and take mental notes.
An amazing friend called this afternoon to ask if she could come for a coffee. My front door is always open to friends, I love to sit, drink coffee, and hear the stories of what is going on in friends lives. It’s important to listen, sometimes people just need to talk. I knew this friend had been struggling this year to “control” her 16 year old son, when I say control, I do not mean live his life for him, just steer him in the direction she and her husband would rather see him go. He’s got himself embroiled in an interesting crowd, and it is all about keeping up with the joneses, doing as his mates will do, experimenting with all those things young people often like to experiment with and certainly, not questioning every move with “What would Jesus do?”. My heart breaks for this family, as they do battle with the enemy. An enemy who seems to be prowling like a roaring lion, a thief in the night and robbing them of life. This precious friend has only been in my life a short time, but what a deep impact she has made in my life, her honesty and straight upness speak volumes, my heart broke for her.
As we sat, enjoying the glorious sunshine, she started the conversation by saying she had something to tell me and no, she’s no pregnant. That’s her special sense of humour, she then went on and spilt her heart out, her heartbreak, her hopes and dreams for her eldest, currently dashed, as her darling first born is fumbling and making poor choices in life. As a result of this and much soul searching, seeking God and wise counsel, they have decided that just like the shepherd in the parable of the lost sheep, they must go after him and consequently move church. The rest of the family is struggling with the decision, but they know, that the one matters to God.
My heart is heavy to see this family move on, but as we so often say, God seems to ask us to send the best away. While our church is sizeable, this dear child does not seem to have made friends and connected with those who know Christ. They’re off in search of a peer group of young men, who will encourage their son in his walk, intentionally encourage him to build in his relationship with God. My friend feels this indeed is their last opportunity to follow through on the instruction from Proverbs 22:6, in guiding his path as they would desire to see him go.
You matter to God, he sent his Son to die so that each and every one of us can have Eternal life. No one needs to be good enough for Him, we need simply to acknowledge we are sinners and invite Christ into our life.
John 14:6 says
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
Ephesians 2:8 says
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God